My approach
I want clients to feel understood and comfortable opening up, but also to feel that the work has direction and is connected to what matters to them.
A big part of my work is creating a space where you do not feel like you have to over-explain yourself or justify why something has affected you.
I understand that relationship dynamics, family experiences, perfectionism, anxiety, and emotional patterns are rarely simple or black and white. Often, people are carrying relationships that are confusing, emotionally intense, or difficult to explain to others. Part of therapy is helping make sense of those experiences without reducing them to simplistic labels or forcing things into extremes of “good” or “bad.”
I want clients to leave sessions feeling like they understand things more clearly and have a better understanding of what is happening underneath the surface.
Understanding patterns and relationships
A lot of the work I do involves helping people understand the connection between:
past experiences
relationships
core beliefs
emotional responses
coping patterns
the ways they relate to themselves and others
Many people come to therapy believing they are the problem, or feeling like they simply need to try harder, do more, or “fix” themselves. Often, there are much deeper patterns underneath those beliefs.
Part of therapy is understanding where those patterns came from, why they developed, and whether they are still serving you now.
One area that is often especially important is helping clients untangle what is theirs and what belongs to others in relationships. Many people I work with carry a very strong sense of responsibility and guilt, often taking on far more than is actually theirs to hold.
Practical support and insight
While therapy with me is reflective and insight-oriented, it is also practical. Many clients come in wanting tools or strategies, and I think it is important to meet people where they are. Sometimes practical support around boundaries, emotional regulation, communication, anxiety, or coping skills can help people feel more supported early in the process, while we are also doing deeper work underneath.
The aim is not simply to understand patterns intellectually, but to gradually shift the way you respond to yourself, your emotions, and your relationships.
My therapeutic approach
I draw from several evidence-based approaches, including:
CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy)
Schema Therapy
EMDR
DBT (Dialectical Behaviour Therapy)
The goal of therapy
For many people, therapy begins with simply wanting to feel better.
Over time, the work often becomes about:
understanding yourself more clearly
feeling less guilty
recognising patterns
responding differently in relationships
feeling less overwhelmed
developing healthier boundaries
realising that not everything is your fault
Often, clients describe a sense of relief once they begin to understand what has been driving their patterns for so long.
Therapy cannot erase difficult experiences or relationships, but it can help you understand yourself differently, respond differently, and feel less alone in what you are carrying.